Complaining – Loving What IS

I recently read this passage from Brian Johnson’s Philosophers Notes.

It reminds me that complaining does absolutely no good. Does it make you feel any better? Does it change the situation? Check this out.

Loving What Is

     Byron Katie tells us that whenever she argues with reality she loses. But only every time. 

      Love that.

     Arguing with reality is a really silly idea. What’s happened has happened and no amount of complaining on our part is going to change it. 

     So, while we may want to create a brighter future, the first step is (always) acceptance.

     For the record, this acceptance is not some “My life sucks and I accept my craptastic fate” kinda thing. It’s more like an “Although this situation kinda blows, overall my life rocks and I’m going to accept what’s happening and alchemize it into wisdom fuel as I continue to create my ideal life” kinda thing.

 So as a reminder to myself and others, let’s not complain about our current situation but make efforts to change the situation. This may not occur over night, but over some time. After all, Einstein had a definition of insanity –“Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results”.

Isn’t that what we do when we complain? There is no action or catalyst to change. Be the catalyst of change in your life by TAKING ACTION by Not Complaining. See how that works.

How can I help You?



I heard an interesting statement from Loral Langemeier. “Ask 20 people a day for money and there is no reason why you can’t make $100,000 a year.”

I also remember a passage from the Bible, Mathew 21:22 – “All things, whatever you ask in prayer, believing, you will receive.”

So the word ASK got cemented in my mind and I thought of an acronym for the word ASK – A.S.K. as noted below.

A Aptitude – capability; ability, innate or acquired capacity for something; talent; rediness or quickness in learning.

SSuccess – The favourable outcome of something attempted. An action, performance.

Kknowledge – Awareness, acquaintance with facts, truths or  principles, as from study or investigation.

  • A – We need to have an Aptitude, a rediness, ability to learn what we want and what we will do for the item we ask for. We must also have the ability/capacity to receive what we ask for. If you ask for money, do not waste it. Reduce your debt, help others and save a portion.
  • S – Success usually involves action. To get a home run, you need to swing the bat. You need to attempt what you want to achieve.  You start the path with small steps so you have achievements along the way to your larger goal.
  • K – Knowledge involves study and obtaining information of a subject. Gaining knowledge allows each of us to grow as individuals and then share that knowledge makes our society more valuable as a whole.

Many times “asking” for something can be hard because we don’t have all these faculties in place. If we “ask” for the sale, do we have all the right abilities, talent and truths in place to uphold the sale? If we “ask” someone out, do we have the right capabilities, performance and principles to treat that person well?  If we “ask” for help are we prepared to take the action necessary to do the tasks required to change, get better or allow others to help us?

I believe I have learned many of the items listed above to ask you:

“How Can I help You?”

Great Life Concepts

I recently received some interesting notes from Brian Johnson of Philosophers notes.  I wanted to share this insight with you.

Two Things I CAN DO

#1. What’s the #1 thing I could *start* doing today that, if I did it consistently, would have THE most positive impact in my life? (Then do it.)

#2. What’s the #1 thing I could *stop* doing right now, that, if I stopped doing it, would have the greatest positive impact in my life? (Then quit doing it.)

    Whenever I find myself a little stressed/overwhelmed/whatever I ask myself these two questions—it’s a REALLY powerful way to get the mojo back!

The 10 Principles of Optimal Living


     From what I can see, the essence of Optimal Living comes down to these 10 Principles:

1. Optimism. If we can’t tame that crazy, drunk monkey in our mind and shape the contents of our consciousness, nothing else matters. Period.

2. Purpose. What inspires you? What’s your dharma? Your purpose? Your highest calling? Living an authentically awesome life requires creating an empowering vision and keeping your eye on your Highest Goal without losing yourself on a manic Holy Grail chase.

3. Self-Awareness. From the Oracle of Delphi and the Buddha to modern science, it’s clear: We’ve gotta know ourselves. How well do you know thyself ?

4. Goals. Whether it’s meditating first thing tomorrow morning or starting your business (or family or painting or…), we’ve gotta have goals that inspire us.

5. Action. All that’s nice, but we’ve gotta follow Guru Nike’s advice and *Just Do It!* Are you just doing it or just talking about it?

6. Energy. We’re gonna have a hard time reaching our potential if we have a hard time getting out of bed or getting out of debt. Are you honoring the simple fundamentals of nutrition/exercise/rejuvenation/ money?

7. Wisdom. Wisdom is all about approaching life as our classroom and looking at every moment as another opportunity to live our ideals.

8. Courage. The word comes from the Latin word for “heart.” It’s the virtue that pumps blood to all the other virtues. Without it, none of this other stuff matters. How’s your courage pumping?

9. Love. Love, love, love. How’re your relationships? Are you studying love like you’d study a sport or a musical instrument or a language you want to master?

10. en*theos. God/Spirit/The Universe. Whatever you call the Force that beats our hearts and keeps the planets in line, it’s the center and circumference of everything. Connecting to it is a good idea. You plugged in?

These concepts are from his book Optimal Living 101.  If you’re feelin’ it, check out for a 10-week class where I go into detail on all of ’em!

Enjoy your purpose.