The new posture of People

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I was walking through the lobby of my place of work and noticed how everyone was looking down, hunched over at their mobile devices. The brands are irrelevent, what I noticed was the posture.

To me, the new posture of our society shows we are not aware of who is around, our surroundings, or that we could actually SPEAK to one another or interact. Our technology seems to be cosuming us in a way that we seem to turning into an itroverted society. Have you ever had to TEXT your kdis that dinner was ready? 

I’m old school, I will yell upstairs and if that doesn’t work I actually go up to their rooms and “Speak” to them that dinner is ready and they need to come down and eat. 

Perhaps we can turn off the technology for some moments and interact with our fellow beings to see how wonderful we all are. Lets make our world a better place.

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Positive Habits make for a Great life

I recently received this article by Judy Belmont.

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

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Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

 

First World Worries

I heard something the other day that was pretty interesting and me me think that perhaps we need to be more thankful for what we have in America. 

These were called First World Worries, like these:

  • I hate when the seat belt alarm goes off in the passenger seat when I get my fast food bag.
  • The water is too hot.
  • This air conditioning is freezing.
  • My food is frozen in the back of my refrigerator.

Have you ever said these or heard them?  I have. 

We are a very privileged society and need to consider that there are many other parts of the world that don’t have the exuberant extra we have. Many countries have sub standard water, yet we take ours for granted at times. Many countries have people starving yet we are worried about how many fires we get at McDonald’s.  

Lets try to consider that we are privileged and be thankful for every opportunity we have. 

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Less is More

I read this from a great book I am reading “Take the Stairs” by Rory Vaden.

James Humes wrote this information:

  • There are 66 words in the Lords Prayer – most people know it.
  • There are 179 words in the Ten Commandments – many people can recite tem.
  • There are 282 words in the Gettysburg Address – a lot of Americans talk about it.
  • There are 26,911 words in teh U.S. government’s regulations on the sale of cabbage – and nobody cares.

So why do we think we need to talk so much or put so many words in things?

Let’s take a moment to think about what we say or write so it has real impact.

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ABC’s of Faith

Since school is starting soon I thought I would give a different perspective of the ABC’s.

Ask and it will be given to you

Believe

Consider the Lilies

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you

Encourage

Forgive

Give to one from whom you will not receive

Hope

Instruct

Judge not

Knock & the door will be opened to you

Love your neighbor as yourself

Be Mindful

Do not Neglect to gift that is within you

Owe no one

Practice kindness

Be Quick to Listen

Rejoice

Seek

Take heart

Understand

Value Truth

Walk humbly

Strive to EXcel

Enter into JoY

Be Zelous for the good

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