F.E.A.R. of failure

I recently received this great quote from Brian Johnson creator of  “en*theos”:

We pay a heavy price for our fear of failure. It is a powerful obstacle to growth. It assures the progressive narrowing of the personality and prevents exploration and experimentation. There is no learning without some difficulty and fumbling. If you want to keep on learning, you must keep on risking failure – all your life.

                                                                                                                                                                       John W. Gardner

As you may have heard me say before, F.E.A.R. is an acronym for False Expectations Appearing Real. Also, I don’t necessarily believe in failure. If you are trying to get somewhere and you make a wrong turn, do you stop trying to get to your destination? I hope not.  Failure occurs when you decide not to make another attempt to achieve your goal. Did you give up trying to walk as a young child? I bet you fell down a time or two and even skinned your knee or hands.

As the quote suggests, FEAR carries a heavy price, we don’t get to experience life and learning. If you want to get to know someone you need to talk to them. That means you have to take a step towards the person to intiate conversation.  Don’t let F.E.A.R. stop you from making an attempt, making an experience and achieving a goal.


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Your Attitude

I received this great reminder article from Brian Johnson and had to share it with everyone. We need to keep this idea/thought at the top of our mind everyday.

Your Attitude  |  by Brian Johnson

“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing; the last of the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” ~ Viktor Frankl from Man’s Search for Meaning

Frankl is the poster child for the admonition that we MUST recognize the fact that we have responsibility to choose how we respond to any given situation. Frankl, a man who lost his entire family and barely survived the horrors of the Nazi concentration camps of WW II, developed this philosophy in the midst of the most brutal experience any human being will ever go through.

We’ve all experienced many things that we wish never happened. But the fact is only very few among us have experienced anything as ghastly as losing our entire family and nearly losing our own lives in the horrors of a concentration camp. And if this man can choose his attitude in his situation, we can certainly choose OUR responses. No?

So, what’s bothering you right now? 

You get a parking ticket? Lose your job? Relationship not working? Kids being a challenge? Get sick? 

Of course, any and all of the challenges we face in our day to day lives can bring us turmoil, but NEVER forget that, ultimately, how you CHOOSE to respond to the challenge is entirely your call.

DO NOT be a victim to the myriad of petty things that we can CHOOSE to let bother us. Own your attitude. CHOOSE how you will respond to any given situation.

My personal recommendation? 

Flip it around and think about all the things for which you’re grateful. 

Get a parking ticket? Be grateful you even have a car. Be grateful you’re going to be able to help pay for someone’s wages for part of the day. Stub your toe? Be grateful you HAVE a toe to stub and such a great life that that’s probably the worst thing that’s going to happen to you today. Kids being a little challenging? Be grateful they’re healthy enough to make so much noise and honor them for the growth you both experience together.

Whatever it is, choose your optimal response.


Do you see a pattern here? Be Grateful. recommneded from a man that survived teh concentration camps of WWII.  The small things we go through can build our character, give us strength, give us a better perspective to doing better and achieving better resultsin our future.

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I received some encouraging information from Brian Johnson CEO of  en*theos about a book from Don Miguel Ruiz:

The Four Agreenments 

 The Four Agreements in a nutshell are:

– Be impeccable with your word.

– Don’t take anything personally.

– Don’t make assumptions

– Always do your best

Try it.

You’ll be a totally different person within the week. However, I will warn you, trying these four agreements is not an easy task. I find my use of words really needs work.  It takes discipline which will take time. So a Fifth & Sixth agreement will be – “Be patient” and “Pray“.

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Getting in Gear

I received this interesting article from Brian Johnson this morning and had to share it.

A Maserati Stuck in First Gear  |  by Brian Johnson

“Being able to shift perspectives is like having a freely functioning vehicle. If a car is stuck in any gear, what you’ve got is a dysfunctional car. Even if it’s a Maserati, if you’re stuck in first gear, or you’re stuck in reverse, no matter what gear you’re stuck in, it’s dysfunctional. But the moment you have fluidity and movement and you’re able to shift up or down or into reverse, or whatever you need to do, you’ve got a functional vehicle.” ~ Zen Master Dennis Genpo Merzel from Big Mind · Big Heart

That’s awesome. Imagine your ideal car. It looks soooo beautiful on display. You buy it. And… It’s stuck in reverse. Hah!

Now imagine YOUR life. Are you stuck in reverse? Always looking backwards? Stuck in 1st, never willing to take a risk? Or maybe stuck in 5th, never able to slow down?

As Genpo says, it doesn’t matter what gear you’re stuck in, if you can’t shift as life demands, your car is dysfunctional. Same with our lives.

Again, this is what the Big Mind process is all about: not getting “stuck.”

(And, while we’re on the subject of dysfunctional cars, how about some Anthony de Mello mojo? (See Notes on his great book Awareness for more): “You’re much more energetic, much more alive. People think that if they had no cravings, they’d be like deadwood. But in fact they’d lose their tension. Get rid of your fear of failure, your tensions about succeeding, you will be yourself. Relaxed. You wouldn’t be driving with your brakes on. That’s what would happen.” 🙂

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